Teenage years can be difficult. On one hand, your kids can enjoy more freedom, whilst on the other, this is the time that they are more likely to push against the boundaries that you have set.
In this blog post, we will give you our top tips on how to effectively communicate effectively with teenagers.
If you take away one point from this post, the best point to take away is to listen.
By simply sitting back and opening your ears to your teen’s life, it can be easier than asking direct questions.
Direct questions can sometimes make an adolescent feel uncomfortable and nervous about certain situations. You do not want to make your child feel pressured as they may not feel like they can open up and share. It's hard but try not to pry but remain patient, open-minded and listen when they are ready to talk.
We know it can be easy to try to solve all teenage issues ourselves, but the greatest thing you can do is to work with them and think about their feelings before making comments or taking action.
For example, if your teenager has broken up with their partner, it is best to not pass judgement but to simply empathise with the situation, such as “that sounds difficult, how are you feeling? Would you like to talk about it?”. Using language like this is a great way to build long-term trusting relationships with teenagers.
It may sound like a bit of an obvious one, but trust is everything. For example, give your child small responsibilities or ask them to do favours. This will help them understand that you rely on them.
Letting your children know you have faith and trust in them will help boost their confidence and may help them to open up.
We aren’t saying drop all the rules but be ready to explain why certain rules are in place. Pushing the boundaries is common during the teenage years, but explaining why certain rules are in place will make you come across as a reasonable parent.
For example, setting a time that your teenager has to go to bed. Your teen may throw a few choice comments and ask why, but you need to explain that this is set because of x, y and z.
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