For most of us growing up our parents reflect and characterise the most fundamental and archetypal support network in our lives. They provide us with a safe and compassionate environment synonymous with love, warmth and protection in an otherwise turbulent and unsettling time that is the transition through childhood to adolescence. That makes it all the more tragic that every year across the UK and York thousands of young people are deprived of this due to sudden family tragedy and bereavement.
Between March 2016-April 2018 6% of referrals made to The Island were associated with issues related to family bereavement and tragedy (The Island – Referral Report), that is 1 in 20 young people. This is broadly representative and correlative with findings from larger organisations such as Child Bereavement UK who found that within the UK 1 in 29 5-16 year olds have been bereaved of a parent or sibling.
The Island recognises the symbiosis between delivering positive and sustainable mentoring relationships and creating new and everlasting support networks. That is why we are unwavering in our determination to improve and enhance the quality of life for vulnerable young people who have lost vital support platforms through family tragedy and bereavement across York. Indeed, there are many young people involved with and currently using our services that were referred for issues interlinked with family tragedy.
These young people who have family bereavement identified as their primary need are offered targeted intervention that will specifically address and mitigate the impacts of family tragedy and hopefully improve their perspective and outlook on life. The Island, for example, provides and offers bereavement counselling through Be More Life Coachingthat delivers positive and targeted sessions focused on dealing with and overcoming grief associated with family tragedy. In addition to this The Island also operates and matches mentors with referred young people through matching criteria based off the young person’s primary area of need to ensure the relationship is as beneficial as possible. This includes young people who have been specifically referred for issues related to experiencing family bereavement.
Ian is one of the many young people that were referred to The Island with issues synonymous with family bereavement identified as their primary need. At the time of the referral being made Ian had been faced with a large amount of emotional turmoil. He had recently lost his dad to terminal cancer with his behaviour worsening at both school and home. All of this placed large amounts of pressure on mum who felt more and more overwhelmed as time passed. She was constantly worrying about Ian as he wasn’t being open about the grieving process and seemed to avoid talking about dad.
Ian was matched with a retired woman who had a large array of interests that could positively contribute to helping improve both Ian’s self-belief and confidence. Having grandchildren of her own, Ian’s mentor was experienced when it came to young people and could ideally provide a stable figure in Ian’s life. The impact and support of Ian’s mentor was invaluable, she became a ‘nanna figure’ in his life and as time spent with his mentor went on Ian eventually opened up about losing his dad. Even once the mentoring came to an official end in terms of The Island’s coordination, it was agreed that contact would continue between Ian and his mentor. Mum was incredibly happy at the positive impact the relationship had made to his personal and social development noting how his mood and attitude had improved thanks to his mentor.
Ian is a prototypical case study that represents and reflects the wider beneficial impact that The Island has on many families and children who are struggling due to experiencing family bereavement.
For every £100 donated The Island can provide 10 mentoring sessions to a young person like Ian who needs assistance in overcoming family bereavement and improving their perspective on life. To make a donation click here.
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