



In the UK, there are almost 3,000 children in need of an adoptive family and the number of adoptions in England has fallen by a third in four years.
Adoption Week 2021 (13-18 Oct) is celebrating adoption, by raising awareness and creating a better understanding of the different experiences shared in the adoption process.
While we know that children are resilient; the past 18 months have shown us that we still need to help them look after their mental health, where before we maybe took for granted. This is never truer than during major events in their life, like adoption. Adoption is a wonderful thing, giving a child a loving home, to be nurtured and grow. However, no matter how wonderful the decision, the outcome, it can still have a huge impact on those involved.
No two children will experience the same journey during their adoption experience. Whether adopted as a newborn, toddler, or later in childhood, most child will reach a point in their journey where they need to figure out their emotions and identity. Each journey is very individual to each child; even if the journey is the same or very similar, each child will react to it differently. We must ensure that we always listen, letting children navigate their feelings and experiences in their own time.
How a child reacts to their adoption, can very much be defined by when they were adopted. For children old enough to understand, then adoption can be seen as a relief after either being in foster care for many years, or a difficult situation at home. Anger can arise at their birth parents, or they made feel abandoned by them. Sometimes feelings can develop towards their adoptive parents, resentment that they have ‘taken them away’ from their birth parents; or worry and anxiety about whether this means they may no longer be reunited with them.
Other children may deal with their adoption well, gain confidence from the stability and love that it provides. However, they may still have questions about their earlier life, about their birth parents, about their background, all of which may then bring to the surface feelings that previously weren’t there. It can be difficult to know the right answers, or to deal with the feelings that arise in children going through such a huge event in their lives. Here at The Island, mentors can help with difficulties that a child may be facing.
We ensure that every child is welcomed and supported from day one, and we take great care to ensure that they are matched to the right mentor upon arrival. Mentors meet regularly with them and can help with not only self-esteem, co-operation and behaviour and respect, but also peace of mind, calmness and general happiness.
The two best ways that you can help us currently is to either join us as a volunteer mentor or to set up a standing order so that we can forecast future costs for our mentoring programmes. Please click here get in touch if you can help.
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